Dearest, most wonderful Dale, sometimes it has to be about you. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise. Families, children and the demands of both can swamp you. Strangely, it seema that only mothers are expected to sacrifice themselves to this greater good called family. There has to be a balance. We love you Dale. Whatever happens, never forget that xxxx
Would it help for you to know how much I believe in you? When things are hard, please remember that. Remember that you have someone who is always on your side. walking beside you whether you win or lose, whether you're happy or sad. In the same way that I believe that a sunny day lies ahead, I believe in you
The world is full of women blindsided by the unceasing demands of motherhood, still flabbergasted by how a job can be terrific and torturous... dale you are an exceptional beautiful human being always remember that x.... ((((hudle)))
Eleven people were hanging on a rope under a helicopter, ten men and one woman.
The rope was not strong enough to carry them all, so they decided that one had to leave, because otherwise they were all going to fall.They were not able to name that person, until the woman held a very touching speech.
She said that she will voluntarily let go off the rope, because as a woman she is used to giving up everything for her husband and kids, or for everyone in general, without ever getting anything in return.
As soon as she finished her speech, all men started clapping their hands........
HUGS, KISSES, AND LIGHT! YOU'RE THE BEST.....MWAH!
It's late, very late, and I must to my bed depart, but just wanted to say how very wonderful and happy it made me feel to see you on my blog today - just like our old Dale...three comments for one...sigh...happy day xxxx
Hi Dale, hope you are well. It seems not by your posts. My positive thoughts are being sent your way. I don't know what else to say, but I wish you peace and happiness...
Dale, you have the hardest job in the world, and no-one else can do it for you. I don't know what specific difficulties you've been having, but if it's family, there are many here, myself included, who feel both for you and with you.
Yes, do take time for yourself. You matter, and not just so you can be strong for others. You have needs and deserve to have those needs acknowleged, honoured and occasionally indulged. It's not easy, but learning to leave the guilt behind is the first step.
(And, when you've figured out how to do it, let me know!)
PS: Long ago when I was conducting corporate training, we used to talk about different personality types and how they behave in the workplace. One of my favourites was the person who suffers from "Burnt Chop Syndrome". When the term elicited blank looks, I used to say "think Mother". Everyone understood.
Dale, you'd better come biccy dunking with Gypsy and I. That will keep your chin held high....... you have to catch the dunked lumps in your mouth before they fall back in the tea!
I think we have all been aware of big challenges and changes going on in your life, dear Dale. I wish I could be there to give you some help. Remember that distance is only physical. We are with you in spirit.xxx
Nice to see you around Dale. I hope you're managing to keep your head above water, and also that you get some feeling of strength from all your friends here.
I'd suck up a a soggy teddy bear with you any time. My goodness that sounds rude. I should stick to talking about burnt chops.
Right then. This calls for drastic measures. I think we'd best set the date Dale. You, me, fuzzy socks, popcorn with real butter, movies, wine, tea and biccis. Tell me what works for you in the next week... it will be all about you!
Dearest, most wonderful Dale, sometimes it has to be about you. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise. Families, children and the demands of both can swamp you. Strangely, it seema that only mothers are expected to sacrifice themselves to this greater good called family. There has to be a balance. We love you Dale. Whatever happens, never forget that xxxx
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ReplyDeleteWould it help
for you to know
how much I believe in you?
When things are hard,
please remember that.
Remember that you have someone
who is always on your side.
walking beside you
whether you win or lose,
whether you're happy or sad.
In the same way that I believe
that a sunny day lies ahead,
I believe in you
The world is full of women blindsided by the unceasing demands of motherhood, still flabbergasted by how a job can be terrific and torturous...
ReplyDeletedale you are an exceptional beautiful human being always remember that x....
((((hudle)))
Warmest thoughts of you Dale!
ReplyDeleteEleven people were hanging on a rope under a helicopter, ten men and one woman.
The rope was not strong enough to carry them all, so they decided that one had to leave, because otherwise they were all going to fall.They were not able to name that person, until the woman held a very touching speech.
She said that she will voluntarily let go off the rope, because as a woman she is used to giving up everything for her husband and kids, or for everyone in general, without ever getting anything in return.
As soon as she finished her speech, all men started clapping their hands........
HUGS, KISSES, AND LIGHT!
YOU'RE THE BEST.....MWAH!
It's late, very late, and I must to my bed depart, but just wanted to say how very wonderful and happy it made me feel to see you on my blog today - just like our old Dale...three comments for one...sigh...happy day xxxx
ReplyDeleteHi Dale, hope you are well.
ReplyDeleteIt seems not by your posts. My positive thoughts are being sent your way. I don't know what else to say, but I wish you peace and happiness...
xxoo grace
Dale, you have the hardest job in the world, and no-one else can do it for you. I don't know what specific difficulties you've been having, but if it's family, there are many here, myself included, who feel both for you and with you.
ReplyDeleteYes, do take time for yourself. You matter, and not just so you can be strong for others. You have needs and deserve to have those needs acknowleged, honoured and occasionally indulged. It's not easy, but learning to leave the guilt behind is the first step.
(And, when you've figured out how to do it, let me know!)
M xxx
PS: Long ago when I was conducting corporate training, we used to talk about different personality types and how they behave in the workplace. One of my favourites was the person who suffers from "Burnt Chop Syndrome". When the term elicited blank looks, I used to say "think Mother". Everyone understood.
ReplyDeleteOMG Margie, the 'burnt chop syndrome' had me in its clutches for years...what a precious term fot it!
ReplyDeleteDale, my love, don't be a burnt chop, be a rare steak ;-) (for rare, think scarce!)
i've always been partial to burnt chop..and everything else..i have a timer for my cooking it's called a smoke alarm..
ReplyDeleteWhen i put a joint in the oven it's the size of a football..when it comes out, it's the size of a pea..
ReplyDeleteDale,
ReplyDeletewarmest hugs sent to you from this side of the country. I was in your wonderful hometown this weekend and thought about you.
Of course it can be about you- there comes a time when you need to remember that you have to be your own best friend.
lots of love sent!
xx
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Thanks to everyone for your kind words and encouragement.
ReplyDeleteIt has been an emotional time for me, as well as a time of great change.
To quote R.E.M..."It's the end of the world as we know it..." - and I'm working on feeling fine..."
I just need to keep my chin up and hang in there.
Thanks again & hugs back to all!
xx
REM also said..
ReplyDelete"everybody hurts...sometime"...
glad you popped in for a vertual cuppa and soggy biccy..x..
Dale, you'd better come biccy dunking with Gypsy and I. That will keep your chin held high....... you have to catch the dunked lumps in your mouth before they fall back in the tea!
ReplyDeleteI think we have all been aware of big challenges and changes going on in your life, dear Dale. I wish I could be there to give you some help. Remember that distance is only physical. We are with you in spirit.xxx
Nice to see you around Dale. I hope you're managing to keep your head above water, and also that you get some feeling of strength from all your friends here.
ReplyDeleteI'd suck up a a soggy teddy bear with you any time. My goodness that sounds rude. I should stick to talking about burnt chops.
Right then.
ReplyDeleteThis calls for drastic measures.
I think we'd best set the date Dale. You, me, fuzzy socks, popcorn with real butter, movies, wine, tea and biccis.
Tell me what works for you in the next week... it will be all about you!
Dale! Thanks for visiting my page I heard you had turned into a daffodil!!
ReplyDeleteAnyhooz sorry to drag you back but you simply must come see my finished house project :)
Dale,
ReplyDeleteThanks for saying hello. Just wanted to wave back and let you know we're thinking of you.
xx
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Just to say hi from the mods in clogs xxxx
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